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Then Jesus left Capernaum and went down to the region of Judea and into the
area east of the Jordan River. Once again crowds gathered around Him (Jesus),
and as usual He was teaching them. 2 Some Pharisees came and
tried to trap Him with this question: “Should a man be allowed to divorce his
wife?” 3 Jesus answered them with a question: “What did Moses say in
the Law about divorce?” 4 “Well, he permitted it,” they replied. “He
said a man can give his wife a written notice of divorce and send her away.” 5
But, Jesus responded, “He wrote this commandment only as a concession to your
hard hearts. 6 But ‘God made them male and female’ from the
beginning of creation. 7 ‘This explains why a man leaves his father
and mother and is joined to his wife, 8 and the two are united into
one.’ Since they are no longer two but one, 9 let no one split apart
what God has joined together.” Mark 10:1-9 (NLT)
As
Jesus was leaving Capernaum, He went southward to the Judean borders on His way
to the city of Jerusalem (Mark 10:1; see also Matthew 19:1; Mark 10:32). Once
again, large crowds of people gathered around Jesus (Mark 10:1; see also
Matthew 19:2). As always, Jesus began to teach the people (Mark 10:1;
see also Matthew 4:23; Mark 2:13; Mark 4:2; Mark 6:6, 34). In Matthew’s Gospel,
Jesus healed the people (see Matthew 19:2).
During
His teaching and healing session, some Pharisees came and asked Jesus, “Should
a man be allowed to divorce his wife?” (Mark 10:2, NLT; see also Matthew 19:3).
Of course, these Pharisees were trying to trap Jesus (Mark 10:2; see also
Matthew 19:3). During Jesus’ time and today, divorce was and continues to be a
controversial and important issue. No matter Jesus’ answer, He would
offend someone in the crowd, and even offend Roman authorities such as Herod
Antipas and Herodias. Herod had already killed John the Baptist for speaking
out against divorce and adultery (see Mark 6:17-29). Thus, the Pharisees hoped
to trap Jesus too because Jesus was now in Herod Antipas’s territory (Mark
10:2; see also Matthew 19:3).
In
Jesus’ day, the Jews debated two conflicting views on divorce: the Hillel view
and the Shammai view. Both Rabbi Hillel and Rabbi Shammai were famous
first-century Jewish scholars. These two conflicting views provided grounds for
divorce based upon Deuteronomy 24:1-4 and the controversial statement that a
man finds “some uncleanness in her” (Deuteronomy 24:1, NKJV). The followers of
Rabbi Hillel maintained a liberal or lax view of Deuteronomy 24:1. The Hillel
view permitted a man to divorce his wife for any trivial and flimsy reason,
even the burning of his food. However, followers of Rabbi Shammai interpreted
Deuteronomy 24:1 conservatively and taught that the critical words “some uncleanness”
referred only to sexual immorality, such as adultery. However, both the Hillel and
Shammai views never allowed a woman to divorce her husband on any grounds. Nonetheless,
Roman women did have the right to divorce.
Moses’
statement “some uncleanness” in Deuteronomy 24:1 did not include adultery. The
Law of Moses did not give adultery as grounds for divorce. Under the Old
Testament Law, anybody who committed adultery was stoned to death (see Deuteronomy
22:22; Leviticus 20:10; also see John 8:3-11). This left the innocent spouses
free to remarry. The Holy Scriptures take seriously the offense of adultery
and marital faithfulness before and during marriage (Exodus 20:14;
Deuteronomy 5:18; see also Leviticus 18:20; Leviticus 20:10; Numbers 5:11-31; Matthew
1:19; Romans 13:19; James 2:11). God forbids sexual immorality as well as
murder, lying, theft, disobedience to parents, and deception (fraud) (Exodus
20:12-17; Deuteronomy 5:16-21; see also Matthew 19:18-19; Mark 10:18-19; Luke
18:20; Acts 15:20, 29; 1 Corinthians 6:9-10; Galatians 5:19-21; Colossians
3:5-6; Revelation 21:8; Revelation 22:15).
Jesus
used the Pharisee’s trap as an opportunity to review God’s original pattern for
marriage. In His response to the Pharisees, Jesus ignored the two conflicting
views on divorce (see also 2 Timothy 2:14-19). Instead of debating this
controversial issue, Jesus asked the Pharisees if they had read the Holy
Scriptures (Matthew 19:4). God’s Word is eternally powerful, corrects us when
we are wrong, and teaches us to do what is right (see 2 Timothy 3:16; Hebrews 4:12;
1 Peter 1:23). Thus, Jesus focused His attention on God’s Word to resolve
the controversy.
In
Mark’s Gospel, Jesus first took the Pharisees to the Law of Moses (Mark 10:3;
see also Deuteronomy 24:1-4). Jesus said, “What did Moses say in the Law about
divorce?” (Mark 10:3, NLT). The Pharisees responded that Moses permitted
divorce and said, “A man can give his wife a written notice of divorce and send
her away” (Mark 10:4, NLT; see also Deuteronomy 24:1). Jesus told the
Pharisees Moses only allowed divorce as an allowance to the hardhearted
wickedness, selfishness, and sinfulness between a man and woman (Mark
10:5). Selfishness always threatens to destroy marriage (see Ephesians
5:21).
However,
in Matthew’s Gospel, Jesus took the Pharisees first to the creation
story of Genesis before human sin to show God’s original plan for marriage
(Matthew 19:4). God created marriage as an intimate and unifying blessing,
bonding man and woman in His creation (Genesis 1:27; Genesis 2:21-25; Genesis
5:2). Jesus
said that divorce was never God’s original intention (Mark 10:6). From the
beginning, Jesus said God made man and woman to be joined together permanently
in marriage (Mark 10:6; see also Genesis 1:27; Genesis 5:2). Then Jesus said in
Matthew and Mark’s Gospels, “Therefore a man is to leave his father and mother,
and he and his wife are united so that they are no longer two, but one. . . .
And no man may separate what God has joined together” (Mark 10:7-9, TLB;
see also Genesis 2:24; Matthew 19:5-6; 1 Corinthians 6:16; Ephesians 5:31).
In
Matthew and Mark’s Gospels, Jesus taught God’s original intention for
marriage. Marriage means a covenant commitment between a man and woman based
upon oneness, faithfulness, mutual respect, and monogamy (Matthew 19:5-6;
Mark 10:7-9; see also Genesis 2:24; Ephesians 5:21, 31; Hebrews 13:4; Revelation
22:15). The marriage relationship is sacred, intimate, and permanent, for the
two become one flesh (Mark 10:8; see also Matthew 19:6). God's original design
knows nothing of “trial marriages.” Moreover, marriage must be kept holy as
marriage is an illustration of the loving, intimate union, and oneness between Christ
and His church (Ephesians 5:22-33; see also John 17:20-21). Marriage is a
covenant before God and governed by the Word of God (see Malachi 2:14-15; Ephesians
5:30-31). God
intends married couples to remain faithful to each other (Mark 10:7). With God’s
help, Jesus wanted man and woman to stay together through the holy bonds of
matrimony and maintain their physical and spiritual unity (Mark 10:7-9). God
hates divorce (Malachi 2:16). Even more, the marriage unit sanctifies and
produces godly children (Malachi 2:15; 1 Corinthians 7:14).
10 Later, when He was alone with His disciples in
the house, they (disciples) brought up the subject again. 11 He told
them, “Whoever divorces his wife and marries someone else commits adultery
against her. 12 And if a woman divorces her husband and marries
someone else, she commits adultery.” Mark 10:10-12 (NLT)
When
Jesus was alone with His disciples, the disciples brought up the subject again
on divorce (Mark 10:10). Jesus told His disciples, “When a man divorces his
wife to marry someone else, he commits adultery against her” (Mark 10:11, TLB;
see also Luke 16:18). Furthermore, Jesus said, “If a wife divorces her husband
and remarries, she, too, commits adultery” (Mark 10:12, TLB; see also Romans
7:3; 1 Corinthians 7:10-11). Thus in Mark’s Gospels, Jesus eliminated both
Jewish conflicting views on divorce (Mark 10:10-12). Jesus affirmed God’s original
intention for a permanent marriage (Genesis 2:24; see also Luke 16:18; 1
Corinthians 7:10-11). Note that Jesus included equally included both men and
the women in His warning. However, in Matthew’s Gospel, Jesus said marital
unfaithfulness (e.g., adultery or fornication) breaks the marriage bond and is
an allowable ground for divorce (see Matthew 5:32; Matthew 19:9). Mark and
Luke’s Gospels do not include the “exception clause” found in Matthew’s Gospel
for sexual immorality (Mark 10:11; Luke 16:18; see also 1 Corinthians 7:10-11).
God’s
priests were not allowed to marry divorced women (see Leviticus 21:13-15; 1
Timothy 3:1-13; Titus 1:5-9).
Jesus: 31
“You have heard the law that says, ‘A man can divorce his wife by merely giving
her a written notice of divorce.’ 32 But I say that a man who
divorces his wife, unless she has been unfaithful, causes her to commit
adultery. And anyone who marries a divorced woman also commits adultery.” Matthew
5:31-32 (NLT)
Yet,
God graciously deals with divorce as with all our sins – through His mercy,
grace, and forgiveness (e.g., see Luke 23:34; Luke 23:39-43; John 8:3-11).
Jesus did not label divorce as an unforgivable sin that that cannot be forgiven
through our genuine confession and repentance (see 1 John 1:9). Yet, divorce is
the failure to live up to God’s original intention. God originally designed the
marriage commitment to be permanent and unbroken (Genesis 2:24; see also
Ephesians 5:31). All three Synoptic Gospels (Matthew, Mark, and Luke) agree
that Jesus viewed divorce as sinful. However, God gave people divorce as a
concession to human sinfulness and wickedness (Mark 10:4-5; see also
Deuteronomy 24:1-4; Matthew 5:31; Matthew 19:7-8). Other than sexual unfaithfulness,
death also breaks the marriage bond. When one spouse dies, the other mate is
free to remarry because the marriage bond has been broken (see Romans 7:1-3; 1
Corinthians 7:8-9; 1 Timothy 5:14). Nevertheless, God wants unity, mercy,
and forgiveness among the parties (see Matthew 6:14; Matthew 18:21-22; Luke
17:3-4). Of
course, it is always better that the guilty party confess the sin, genuinely repent,
and be restored and forgiven. Those who discover that their mate has been
unfaithful should first make every effort to mercifully forgive, reconcile, and
restore their relationship.
Sadly,
these Pharisees were quoting Moses unfairly and out of context. The Holy
Scriptures do not record when divorce first began. The Old Testament passages
found at Deuteronomy 24:1-4 neither establishes divorce nor prohibits. Instead,
Deuteronomy 24:1-4 simply recognizes a practice that already existed in Israel.
Thus, these verses are certainly not suggesting that a man divorce his wife on
a whim. The ideal was for one man to marry one woman for life (see Genesis
2:24). Moses allowed divorce; Jesus said, because of the hardness of people's
hearts (see Matthew 19:8; Mark 10:5). Essentially, divorce was an accommodation
to human weakness and sin. Divorce was a permanent and final act for the
couple. Once divorced and remarried to others, the parties could never be
remarried to each other (Deuteronomy 24:4). This restriction was to prevent casual
remarriage after a frivolous separation. Thus, Deuteronomy 24:1-4 do specify
two important points: (1) the man divorcing his wife must give her a written
statement intended to protect the woman and (2) a divorced woman who remarries
cannot return to her first husband if her second husband dies or divorces her.
10 Jesus’ disciples then said to Him, “If this is
the case, it is better not to marry!” 11 “Not everyone can accept
this statement,” Jesus said. “Only those whom God helps. 12 Some are
born as eunuchs, some have been made eunuchs by others, and some choose not to
marry for the sake of the Kingdom of Heaven. Let anyone accept this who can.” Matthew
19:10-12 (NLT)
In
Matthew’s Gospel, Jesus’ disciples then said to Him, “If that is how it is, it
is better not to marry!” (Matthew 19:10, TLB). Jesus’ teaching seemed very
strict to His disciples. Jesus answered, “Not everyone is mature enough to live
a married life” (Matthew 19:11, MSG). Marriage requires a certain aptitude and
grace. Thus, marriage is not for everyone (Matthew 19:11). Jesus goes on to say
that some people are born without the ability to marry, while some people are
disabled by men, and some people refuse to marry for the sake of God’s Kingdom (Matthew
19:12; see also 1 Corinthians 7:7-8, 26, 32-35). Celibacy is an acceptable option
(1 Corinthians 7:1, 8). Like the Apostle Paul, some people abstained from
sexual relations to devote their full commitment to God’s Kingdom (1 Corinthians
7:1, 7-9, 26, 32-35; see also Acts 21:8-9). Jesus honors celibacy as a valid
life choice just as He honored marriage.
13 Yet you cover the altar with your tears because
the Lord does not pay attention to your offerings anymore, and you receive no
blessing from Him. 14 “Why has God abandoned us?" you cry. I will
tell you why; it is because the Lord has seen your treachery in divorcing your
wives who have been faithful to you through the years, the companions you
promised to care for and keep. 15 You were united to your wife by the Lord. In
God’s wise plan, when you married, the two of you became one person in His
sight. And what does He want? Godly children from your union. Therefore, guard
your passions! Keep faith with the wife of your youth. 16 For the
Lord, the God of Israel, says He hates divorce and cruel men. Therefore,
control your passions—let there be no divorcing of your wives. Malachi
2:13-16 (TLB)
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